The Rules of Engagement

Growing your marriage side-by-side
By Tracy Carter

SADLY, EXAMPLES OF UNHAPPY OR BROKEN MARRIAGES can be found in most neighbourhoods, making the lives of all those involved miserable. But it doesn’t have to be that way – and thankfully, throughout those same neighbourhoods, examples of healthy, vibrant relationships can also be found …

So how can we do better in our own relationships? How can we have a ‘successful’ marriage?

Dr Dorothy O’Neill, couples therapist, and author of The Rules of Engagement, set out to discover what couples who enjoyed successful marriages had in common. And she chatted with us about what her investigations revealed …

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